Tag Archives: good


If you marry to find happiness, you will simply go from being an unhappy single person, to an unhappy married person. It is not your spouse’s responsibility to make you happy.

Everyone wants to be happy, but many look for that happiness outside of themselves; as if it is something that can be delivered to them, or provided for them; something that they will find from their situation or the people in their lives. In reality, happiness is a choice each of us make. You can choose to be happy, or you can choose to be unhappy. There is nothing and no one that can make you happy. Happiness, contentment, joy—they come from God, and they come from within.

How do you make this choice? You must choose to dwell on the good things, and let go of the bad.

“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.”

Philippians 4:8-9 (NIV)

You can choose to be happy, or you can choose to worry, fret, and stew over every problem in your life. Nothing destroys happiness like worry. Worry is the most counterproductive thing you can do.

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

Philippians 4:6-7 (NIV)

Present your problems to God, and then leave them there. Don’t try to take them back by worrying about them—leave them with Him. Then, while you are dwelling on the good things, begin to count those good things. Purposefully begin to number the many blessings that have come your way. The traditional hymn, “Count Your Blessings”, says it quite well:

“Count your blessings, name them one by one,
Count your blessings, see what God hath done!
Count your blessings, name them one by one,
And it will surprise you what the Lord hath done.”

It is so much easier to remember the bad events. We can keep them in our minds without any effort. To overcome that negative tendency takes a conscience effort of choice on two fronts—don’t dwell on the bad, and remember the good.

When you spend your time thinking about the good things, you won’t have time to think about the bad. Your whole life will take on a much more positive perspective. When you dwell on the good things, you are dwelling on God. When you dwell on God, He will bring you peace. Dwelling on God is praying. Through prayer the answers to the problems will come.

“Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee.”

Isaiah 26:3 (KJV)

God’s Words

I promise I’m not just about pain, but right now that is what is closest to my heart. You look around at your family, and you see people in pain. You see children suffering because of what seems such a senseless act. You see sickness, injury, abuse, why must these things be?

Look at our nation, all the inequity, injustice, crime, an endless list. Look at our world, nations at war–soldiers and the innocent dying every day for some senseless ideal, or just for greed.

Words can seem so hollow. How can words ever bring understanding to the evil all around us? “There is a plan.” “Things are under control.” “All will work for the best.” When these words come from a person, they are so empty and easy to dismiss. People speak so easily about what they do not know. They lie and speak words with hidden meaning or ulterior motive. The only reason there is not total despair in this world is that these words come from God. If you cannot believe in the very depth of your heart that these are God’s words, then there is nothing but total despair.

I believe in God, and I believe that He wants us to understand as much as we can about who He is, what He is, and what He is dealing with. There is a war going on. One with much more significance than any war we have seen between men. It is the ultimate war. The war between good and evil, and we are not just bystanders.

God speaks to us, but He also teaches by demonstration. Words alone are never enough. It takes an object lesson for us to truly begin to understand. Do you want to understand His Love? Then you must first understand the love between husband and wife, mothers and their children, brothers and sisters, family, neighbors, friends. Understand all these forms of love and you will just begin to understand God’s love.

But there is another side. How can He show us the pain and suffering this ultimate war brings to all, including Himself? It is by the same principle He is using to teach us about love. If we were innocent bystanders, it wouldn’t matter, but we aren’t, so we must learn about this side too. And, just as with love, we can look at all the pain around us and just begin to understand the reality of this conflict.

“For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known. And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.”

1 Corinthians 13:12-13 (KJV)

There is no way yet for us to fully understand. I don’t think our minds capable of full comprehension. Many can barely handle what we now see–some cannot seem to handle even that. But if we don’t see just some of what He suffered, what He gave up, how can we ever truely understand how much He loves us? If only people could learn by faith and words alone, but no, we must be shown. And even then we can only see as if wearing dark glasses.

God created a plan. He has things under control, and all things will work to our good. These words mean something because we have faith they are spoken by the Creator of the Universe, our Creator. One who has our best interests at heart, who wants the best for us, His children.

When an omnipresent, omnipotent, omniscient being speaks, you can know they are words of significance. Words that can be counted upon and allow you to put aside, for now, your total understanding of any situation. Words that can help you know the ultimate outcome. Now there is faith, now there is hope, now there is love.